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March 13, 2007
Beyond the Bedroom
Dear Stevie,
My girlfriend tried to surprise me the other night by attempting to stick her fingers in my “back door”. I don’t know what she was thinking, that is not part of my normal sexual regimen. Help!
- Anxious Anus
Dear Anxious,
This is a touchy subject for some men on campus. The more guys I mention this to, the more taboo it seems. A lot of guys seem terrified at just the thought of anal penetration.
Why? Because it seems “too gay.” Many straight guys think they need to defend their “manhood” by avoiding everything in that area. When asking one guy on campus about this not too long ago, he said, “that’s reserved for gay dudes.”
I’m here to say no, it’s not. Many dudes, not only gay ones, can enjoy this wonderful phenomenon. How? Men have a sensitive area near the prostate, about two to three inches inside the anus, which is a source for some serious pleasure. Pressure to this gland, which surrounds the urethra and sits below the intestinal region, will intensify orgasm, leaving guys breathless and undoubtedly satisfied.
You may be hesitant, but hopefully you will be willing to try something new. I recommend having her slip a finger or two up there during oral sex just as you're about to orgasm. If she's worried about messy hands, she can slip a lubricated condom on her fingers first. With enough lubrication, it’s almost guaranteed you will writhe with pleasure and be willing to try it over and over.
Something else I’ve been dying to write about is called “pegging.” Pegging can occur between hetero or lesbian couples, and it involves a strap-on dildo and some very adventurous people. It gives the woman a chance to make love to her significant other “doggy-style” via the strap-on. It gives her the chance to be dominant and in control and for her lover to be submissive for a while. It’s a great opportunity for a change in the power structure and for new experiences.
Pegging is not a new trend. There are a lot of people who practice it. You may even know people who take part in this sub-cultural emergence and just not know it.
So, it’s really not as strange as it sounds-you may even want to give it a try one of these nights. Who knows? Maybe your partner has been thinking about it, too.
Disclaimer: Stevie Hotman has aspirations of being a sex expert, but has no professional training. Please direct questions to oracle@hamline.edu or MB 106.
Posted by dwright at March 13, 2007 10:11 PM
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