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February 20, 2007
Beyond the Bedroom:erotic experience
Dear Stevie,
This is really embarrassing for me, but a few weeks ago I had a girl in my room and we were fooling around. We were both really aroused, but as soon as she unzipped my pants, I got so excited that I came on her! She got so mad that now she won’t talk to me. I need to prevent this from happening again.
-She Should Really Take It As A Compliment
Dear Compliment,
Sounds like you have a case of premature ejaculation. It’s a curse that has plagued college guys for way too long.
Most guys struggle with premature ejaculation during their first sexual experiences. If this situation was new to you, don’t be concerned, you’ll be able to control it with time and practice. Some guys do it simply when they are extremely aroused by someone or something.
It can happen to older men too, if they are stressed about work or finances, but that is a psychological problem that can be helped with therapy and medication.
In your case though, it’s all a matter of control. I suggest the start-stop method, a practice to help you learn control. Get yourself aroused, without ejaculating, and let your erection fade. Do this for as long as you can and in a few weeks you will be able to hold your erection longer.
As for the girl, I say forget about herčthe ratio of guys to girls at Hamline is in your favor. That one’s not worth the trouble.
While we’re on the subject, I might as well talk about female ejaculation, too.
Female ejaculation, also known as squirting, is accomplished during the female orgasm (which is a whole different topic) and is really an extraordinary experience. It only happens to a small percentage of women a small percentage of the time.
It is different from the lubrication that women excrete during arousal and is a much larger quantity. Lubrication excretes slowly from the urethra and is not ejaculation. During an orgasm it can rush out quickly through that tiny hole, thus earning the nickname “squirting.”
My personal belief is that female ejaculation is not mentioned nearly enough compared to male ejaculation. Women should be acquainted with what happens to their bodies, and know that it happens once in a while. People have been so hush-hush about it for so long that many women don’t even know what it is!
It’s no secret that women can receive as much pleasure as men during intimacy and it shouldn’t be taboo. So, to all the ladies out there, if you squirt your lover in the face during that epoch of powerful pleasure, there is no need to be ashamed.
Disclaimer: Stevie Hottman has aspirations of being a sex expert, but has no professional training. Send questions to oracle@hamline.edu or MB 106.
Posted by dwright at February 20, 2007 11:29 AM
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