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SH: There are many ways you can go about solving this dilemma. This doesn’t have to be something for you to stress out about.

KW: First, it’s good to try to step out of your comfort zone. Take small risks. If he wants you to be a dominatrix, try being a little more assertive and aggressive with him, and work your way up. See if he likes it, but remember to have fun.

SH: If you feel pressured to do things that you’re not comfortable with, be sure that he knows. Don’t do something purely for his sake; there are two of you in this relationship, after all. If you’re having trouble stepping out of your comfort zone, try doing something without your boyfriend. For example, you and a close friend could browse a local adult sex shop just to see what is available. Seeing that other people are trying these things might help you to realize how common it really is.

KW: For starters, you are going to need an outfit. A good place to go is Venus on Lake Street. They have some awesome get-ups that are nice and risquÄ for fulfilling any fantasy. They have everything you could possibly need from whips and chains to sexy hooker shoes. Also, try watching some adult films with similar characters to get some ideas to step out of the box. And please do not get free porn onlinečit is pretty raunchy and there are much more classy videos available for rent or to buy. Don't be afraid to ask for some helpčthe employees at these stores are usually very helpful.

SH: This may sound like we’re throwing a lot at you, but really we want to help. Being shy in the bedroom can make for awkward moments. This will take you awhile to get used to, especially if you consider yourself sexually conservative. You may not feel comfortable with all of this, even if you want to be. Make a compromise with your boyfriend. Just because you do something once does not mean you have to do it every time. Maybe you can only do it once or twice, and you can also get him to do something for you. It doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual, maybe just romantic, like flowers or breakfast in bed. And you never know, you may end up liking it.

We’re basically saying this: We can tell you want to know if there’s more to sex than just the “eight minute, hump hump hump, are you done yet?” technique, and there is. It’s good to explore your options. Try new positions. The classic three are good examples, but you can expand beyond just missionary, girl on top, and doggy. Try standing up or try a new location (within reasončthere are laws to abide by). Take it beyond the bedroom. You seem a little sick of the monotony, or you wouldn’t be reaching out for help. Don’t just give in to your boyfriend’s suggestion; play with it a little bit and make it fun for you. We can tell there’s a slight interest here, so don’t be afraid to step out of the box--that’s half the fun.

Disclaimer: Kelly Walsh and Stevie Hottman have aspirations of being sex experts, but have no professional training. Send questions to oracle@hamline.edu or DS 106.