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Dear Pondering Penises,

First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with either being circumcised or not being circumcised. It is a decision that parents make when a male child is born. They can make the decision based on any number of reasons, such as religion or hygeine. Also, a male may make the decision on his own later in life, but this is rare.

Second, it is awesome that you are concerned about not hurting your guy's feelings--this can be a touchy subject sometimes.

By definition, circumcision is the removal of the foreskin on the penis. A penis that is not circumcised is not much different than one that is circumcised. The most important thing for an uncircumcised guy to remember is to properly clean his penis. If foreskin is present it is easier to obtain an infection down there so keeping it clean is a must.

When the penis is soft, you will be able to see the foreskin, but when it is erect you will not see a difference. You will not be able to feel a difference during intercourse, either. However, you most likely will if you prefer to use your hands. Do not worry about that, though; some find it easier to pleasure their guy with their hands if he is not circumcised. The use of a condom is no different regardless of the presence of foreskin, so if or when it comes to doing the deed there is no need to worry.

As far as trying not to hurt your guy’s feelings or make him feel embarrassed, be as understanding as possible. This was most likely not a decision he made himself. And most of all, not being circumcised is not a big deal so there is no need to make it one! Simply let him know you like him just the way he is. Be sure to bring this subject up when the time feels right to help make things less awkward.

Disclaimer: Kelly Walsh has aspirations of being a sex expert, but has no professional training. Some situations are fabricated for educational and entertainment purposes. Please direct questions to oracle@hamline.edu or Drew Science 106.