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Dearest Much Too Tired,

Keep in mind, it’s not about speed, it’s about the technique. You shouldn’t be concerned about hurting him but be careful, his testicles are very sensitive. Explore every square inch of his genital surface area. Your man will love having his penis worshiped, played with, fondled, tickled and massaged. Don’t start off by jerking or tugging. Build up to it.

After a while, you’re ready to get a little more aggressive, but you don’t want to start beating, jacking, whacking, or jerking. Tease the more sensitive areas of his penis: the glans, corona (where the head joins the shaft) and the tender underside of his penis.

Put your palm, with your fingers extended straight out, on the glans and twist back and forth. He may start to squirm and plead for you to stop, but in most cases, he’s enjoying every second of it. This would be a good time to wrap your lips around his cock head and rub your tongue over the glans. Again, he will want you to stop but you could drive him to utter bliss.

After doing this for a while, his penis may emit its natural lubricant. The pre-seminal fluid is nature’s way of moistening the urethra so the sperm can swim freely out of it. If there’s no pre-cum, don’t be concerned; it’s not a requirement.

Using good lubricant might be enjoyable. Make sure you rub your hands together first to warm it up. A cinnamon-based ointment would emit a slight burning sensation which will firm-up his erection and give him a new sensation. Since you seem to get tired, here are some
energy-saving techniques:

Switch Hitter

Use both hands, alternatingback and forth in a rhythm. Don’t get into a dull pattern, keep it fresh.

The Anvil Stroke

Bring one hand from the top of his penis down his shaft. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile, the other hand is starting at the top.

The Flame

Put your hands on either side and rub back and forth like you’re trying to start a fire. The unique direction will get him going.

As for giving him a blow job, take it slow. Have your man stand and lean against the wall for support. Standing will make blood migrate to his penis.

Cover your teeth with your lips and use your jaw muscle instead of your lip muscles, you’ll last longer but he won’t. If this starts to hurt, start using your lips and tongue or try manual stimulation. Persistence is key. Watch what he does and learn from that.

Disclaimer: April Schmitz has aspirations of being a sexpert but has no professional training. To submit a question e-mail it to oracle@hamline.edu. You can remain anonymous.