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Dear Cowgirl,

Most guys really enjoy sex when you take the reins. Your man will love the all-access view of your wonderful body. Remember though, it’s not all about him. You benefit in such a way that you are able to control the speed, depth, and motion of penetration that will occur.

There are more positions for woman-on-top than just the Reverse Cowgirl. If you want to keep it at the rodeo, Back to the Rodeo is the position for you. To make this work, your man needs to lie on his back while you hop on top, looking at his feet and guide his penis in you. Gently lean back and spread your legs slightly apart so now you are laying on top of him. Together, rock back and forth while tightening and relaxing your urethra.

The payoff for you is that his penis is allowed to tantalize your charged nerves of your lower “V-zone”. This position allows for full-body contact that many woman-on-top positions do not allow. He will love being able to caress your breasts and belly or manually stimulate you.

If you are afraid of being visually exposed, the Hip-to-Hip Hula may be for you. Again, have your guy lie flat on his back with his legs slightly spread. While facing him, climb on top with your pelvises aligned and your legs on the outside of his. Once he is inside of you, lean forward and support yourself with your palms. He should either hold your hips or butt to help with the motion and for the extra contact.

In this position, your clitoris is in perfect alignment with his pubic bone. This produces double stimulation to pleasure you that much more.

In case you’re not comfortable with the thrusting aspect of woman-on-top positions, then the Sit en’ Spin will work. When you’re on top of him, place your knees on the floor or mattress and guide his penis inside of you. Start by moving in a circular motion in one way, then switch directions. This is a very easy position to master and the belly dancer motion will make you feel extra seductive. His shaft will caress the inside of your vaginal wall and give you the feeling of overall stimulation. He will love gazing at your body and with his free hands, he will be able to explore your body. The unexpected switching directions will keep him going for longer, which will prolong the climax.

There is no reason to be uncomfortable with being on top. Like anything, it just takes some practice. And most people won’t mind a little practice anyway.

Disclaimer: April Schmitz has aspirations of being a sexpert but has no professional training. To submit a question e-mail it to oracle@hamline.edu. You can remain anonymous.