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Dearest PYGOD,

First, you should know that many men are uncomfortable with performing sexual acts while their significant other is pregnant. They are unsure of the risks and benefits of having sex while pregnant.

I want you to know that in most cases, it is perfectly acceptable to have sexual intercourse right up until the birth. There are, however, certain circumstances when you shouldn’t have sex during your pregnancy. These include if you’re bleeding, experiencing preterm labor, or if you or your partner have sexually transmitted diseases.

If you’re worried about your baby, rest assured, he or she will be fine. The fetus is protected by a cushioning sac of amniotic fluid. If, however, your water is broken, you’ll need to avoid intercourse or penetration altogether and seek a health care provider immediately.

You may also ask, what about orgasms? According to Robin Elise Weiss, a childbirth and postpartum educator, orgasms can be much different during pregnancy. Orgasms are still possible, and some women experience them in multiples. This is due to the increased fluids in that are making the clitoris and vagina more sensitive.

In general, orgasms are beneficial to both you and your baby. Don’t worry, your baby doesn’t know what you are doing. Your baby can, however, experience the euphoric hormone rush that you experience. You will also feel minor contractions of the uterus, as usual, but since the uterus is larger, you will be able to feel them more. Do not confuse this sensation with preterm labor, unless you have this cramping sensation for more than one hour.

The only problem with orgasms during your pregnancy is that near the end of your term, you may not experience the sense of relief that a normal orgasm would provide. In fact, you may feel even more sexually frustrated than before.

Having oral sex while being pregnant is not dangerous for you or your baby, with one exception. Don't blow air into the vagina.

Oral sex can be very pleasurable, particularly if you or your partner is fearful or doesn’t want to engage in sex. This is a great way to express your sexuality without having intercourse. Keep in mind that there is an increased discharge while pregnant, but this is not harmful to either of you. If one of you is bothered by this, you simply need to wash yourself prior to engaging in these activities. Better yet, take a shower together.

The best way to make sure that no harm will come to you or the baby is to talk to a health care provider. Each case is different and the only way to make sure that it’s safe is to ask questions. If your practitioner tells you, “No sex,” find out exactly what they mean. Do they mean no orgasms or no intercourse? And if they say no to either of these questions, ask for how long. Always follow the advice that your practitioner gives you. After all, they are the experts. 


Disclaimer: April Schmitz has aspirations of being sexperts but has no professional training. Some situations are fabricated for entertainment and educational purposes.