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This is a common problem for many males, so you may take comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Despite cultural expectations of “going all night long,” the average time it takes a guy to climax is three minutes. However, I understand your need to prolong the experience. This is not a lost cause. There are a few techniques you can try to turn this sexy sprint into a marathon.

One thing you can do is buy condoms that are manufactured with desensitizing gel inside, which slightly numbs the penis. This gel is designed to reduce the intensity of the sensation for the man, thus prolonging the experience. Such gel may also be purchased separately, and manually applied to the penis before putting on the condom. Be sure to read the label on whatever product you choose to couple with a condom, as some chemicals contained may decrease its effectiveness. The good part about using desensitizing products is that they can be reapplied as necessary, so if you are in the middle of doing the deed and feel the end is near, you are able to stop and add more.

Another technique you can try is slowing the pace during lovemaking. This not only reduces both the friction and speed, but it creates a new sensation that may be more enjoyable for you and your partner. However, be cautious about reducing the quickness of your thrust too much, as you run the risk of losing your erection. The idea is to find a speed that allows you to control your climax while not becoming limp.

A third way to prolong intercourse is to try woman-on-top. This is ideal because you have the ability to relax while she is in control, allowing you to focus on erogenous zones of her body. Or try frequently changing positions; as the repositioning and reentering allows “recovery time” if you are close to climaxing, while experimenting with different means of achieving pleasure.

If none of these tips are effective in preventing premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse, try prolonging the entire experience. One of the best parts of making love is that it usually includes foreplay to get both parties in the mood. Increase the amount of time spent doing everything but penetrating, such as kissing, heavy petting, or performing oral sex on your partner. That way, if you still have a problem with orgasming too quickly, she’ll be satisfied regardless of the amount of time spent having sex. Also, remember that sometimes the most satisfying experiences consist of an intense minute or two, as opposed to an all-nighter. It’s not the quantity of time spent between the sheets, but the quality of the whole encounter that makes it memorable.

Disclaimer: Sex Columnists have aspirations of being sexperts but no professional training. Some situations are fabricated for entertainment and educational purposes.