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Dear YWMMGT,

First off, make sure whatever I’m suggesting to you works for him. Some dudes like it rough while your homeboy might dig more of a soft Neil Diamond vibe. For instance, lots of folks will tell you to focus on the head. Although I enjoy this sensation, it often kills the chance of reaching the Promised Land. If you’re too shy to ask him if things are working and he’s too shy to say, you should be able to tell from his reactions. Remember not everyone moansčsome are into facial expressions, spasms, and sweaty palms.
Also, try looking into his eyes while you’re performing the act. It shows that you’re into him and enjoy it. It’s hot for him when it’s hot for you. Would you rather have someone going down on you who clearly doesn’t want to or someone who, say, called you at 5 a.m. just to blow you? Ponder that. Keep in mind that this can be achieved by ways other than eye contact. Show general enthusiasm, like ripping off his pants, wiping sweat from your mouth like a pirate, talking about how you “really really want it bad,” or whispering it to him in public.
Keep in mind there are things other than your mouth to consider. He has erogenous zones other than his penis. Some of them aren’t obvious. Screw the obvious entendresčI like it when I get my thighs kissed midway through, for instance. Your body (hopefully) is a turn-on to him too. Grab or play with yourself, which in addition will prove to him you’re a fan of what’s going on (insert eye contact or whisper here).

Okay, most people think it’s all about doing good things and they forget not to do bad things. Yes, your mouth will get tired. The way to deal with it is not to pull away and say something like “My lips are getting tired.” Figure out something to do that doesn’t hurt. Just don’t start talking about something else. Watch for the signals-if he’s clearly turned off, stop doing whatever you’re doing.

The most important thing is to have fun. Find something about it you enjoy, even if it’s only making him happy. If you just can’t locate a redeeming quality, don’t do it. Dump anyone who wants you to do anything you just can’t feel is fun; and don’t do anything just because you want someone to like you.
Disclaimer: Sex Columnists have aspirations of being sexperts but no professional training.╩Some situations are fabricated for entertainment and educational purposes.