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I always have told my friends, family and intimate relations that two’s company and three can be a damn awkward crowd. Your predicament brings me back to my own memories of the anxiety and titillation I experienced walking into my first threesome orgy. At the time, it was very exciting and grotesque to me.
However, these feelings pass and unfortunately mÄnage has become as bland as a pair of handcuffs and a blindfold.

Coming back to your question, I sense that your anxiety at the thought of a threesome with your girlfriend and what I assume would be another stranger comes either from the fact that you think you will not pay her enough attention midst all the flailing, or even worse, the possibility that she may pay no attention to you and satisfy only the sexual cravings of your mysterious third wheel.

Well, I don’t personally know either of you, so all I can say is that’s a risk you’ll have to take. Depending on how strong your relationship is and how much you really like each other, a little rendezvous with someone new could make or break you. I find it interesting that you did not mention any concerns of the sex of the third partner, or am I to assume it’s going to be a female? Or has this aspect lodged itself deeply within your subconscious? I am sure you have separate fears for either sex, but mostly I am guessing you are afraid of how your girlfriend will react to someone else. The reason you feel you need to do it with strangers is because you really would love to let loose, which your girlfriend does too, except that she might have less anxiety seeing you do it since she did approach you about it.

I would suggest that if you really want to stay with her, just try the threesome. Like any fantasy, it’s not going to be what you think with or without strangers involved. Your relationship will progress from there, but the good thing is that you both can be open enough to take that chance.

There are many men that wish their partners had approached them just as yours has, so I must advise you to use this opportunity, come what may. Don’t obsess about pleasure in the future, and instead focus on pleasure you can obtain now.

And my poor Lone Swinger, to pass on a little wisdom from the French: The family that plays together stays together.

Disclaimer: Nick Bell has aspirations of being a sexpert but no professional training. To submit a comment or question, e-mail it to oracle@hamline.edu or drop it off at the Oracle office (DS 106).