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March 15, 2005
Under the covers...with Molly Kirwan
Dear Molly:
I got into a serious relationship during high school and stayed with the same guy until very recently, so I’ve done very little sexual investigating on my own. Now, for practically the first time since puberty, I am single and very horny. I’ve never really masturbated. I’ve tried, but I’m so used to having someone else help me out down there that it feels kind of weird, and I find it hard to stay aroused. Has sex at an early age ruined my ability to pleasure myself, or should I keep trying?
Single Girl Wanking
For the love of god, SGW, please keep trying. I am a firm believer that one should “love” oneself before “loving” others. Of course, I understand that in situations such as yours, it sometimes takes another to usher you into that realm of sexual awareness and curiosity. But take this new singledom as a golden opportunity to learn all about yourself and your needs and desires, both sexual and otherwise.
Now, SGW, the key to first-time masturbating is avoiding getting frustrated or distracted. Chances are that it is going to take a little time for you to have that first solo orgasm, so schedule a nice long block of alone time and start by relaxing. Open up that Hamline planner and plant a “Hanging Out With Pinky” all over Wednesday afternoon. Since you are used to having company on your trip to the big O, you might find it beneficial to turn off the lights and imagine that you’re not so alone. If it doesn’t happen in one sitting, SGW, make your play date with Pinky a regular event.
And yes, SGW, you may want to try using a vibrator, though I think you should try the fingers out first.
Everyone should be able to service themselves without the aid of extraneous equipment in case they find themselves in a masturbation emergancy (like a really long layover, or even convo hour). If you have some anxiety about visiting Sex World, do not fear, because you can order sex toys from the safety of your own home thanks to that nifty Internet. Or, if you are feeling adventurous, you might want to make a visit to Smitten Kitten, a woman-run sex shop in Minneapolis. There are many options out there, so you might want to do a little research before you head out to buy. I suggest visiting www.babeland.com for a little friendly information.
At any rate, with a little time and a bit of elbow grease, you should find something that works for you, SGW. Just don’t give up, and remember that once you get in touch with yourself, there’ll never again be need for a dull moment when you’re alone.
Disclaimer: Molly Kirwan has aspirations of being a sexpert, but has no professional training.
Posted by msveum at March 15, 2005 02:14 PM
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